Animosity – Why Is This the Norm in Adult Forums?

The much wiser older generation cannot begin to comprehend how you, we, us spend hours and hours on social networking sites and of course, that window you tend to minimize when someone approaches – the adult forum. Admit it, the discussion on adult forums are quite interesting because they discuss the sensitive issues usually revolving on the topic of sex and relationships, which we rarely discuss openly with new acquaintances because society dictates it. Well, you are one lucky person if you always have the freedom to discuss such things openly with a person you just met some minutes ago. But this is not always the case. The adage “no two situations are the same” applies. Most of the time, it will be awkward to discuss such topics with people we just met.

Human beings are the highest form of animals – this is one fact that is attributed to many factors and among that factors is our ability to socialize and interact. Through the socialization process, we are able to develop our critical thinking, update our knowledge, validate some issues that we have questions about, meet people with the same cultural background, form new ideas and so much more. We cannot consider to be healthy if we do not socialize. But why maintain animosity? Are we afraid to show who we really are? Why do most adults use pen names or plain numbers?

Well, for one thing, safety is a concern. We all know the perils of some few unguarded moments of vulnerability. Like animals, predators in adult forums disguise themselves as sheep. However, another point of view is, using an anonymous or pen name gives us the freedom to say what we want without being judged. Fear of rejection is somehow eliminated for the brain can rationalize that even if one person in that adult forum criticize what you have said, you can always be comforted that no one knows who you really are behind the name that you used.

Furthermore, it also fosters creativity. How? When you enter such adult forums, what you usually do is scan the names already inside the forum. Automatically, you will end up buzzing on a name that sounds interesting, thought-provoking or any name that sends an underlying meaning for you.

In the end, the names we used usually represents the type of personality that we have or should I say, the type of person that you keep hidden from your associates. In psychology, our personality is defined by the four Johari’s window – the public self, private, semi-public and the unknown self. The private self is usually what we exhibit when we enter adult forums under anonymous names.

Issues to Remember When Visiting Adult Websites

There are tons of adult websites on the internet nowadays. It is very common for use to visit these sites from time to time. In fact, there is nothing wrong when you are visiting these sites. You may just want to search for the best sex positions when you are visiting these sites. Yet, there are some points you need to remember when you are visiting them.

If it is possible, you should never use your private email address when you subscribe. Although the adult websites or the sites on the best sex positions may have their own privacy policy, it will be a lot safer if you do not use your private email address. The best way will be using some free email accounts such as Yahoo Mail, Hotmail and Gmail when if you want to subscribe.

You may need to pay for subscriptions to the adult website. You may think that you can just pay by using your credit cards. However, it can sometimes be dangerous for you to do so. The best situation will be that the websites accept payment using systems such as PayPal and Epassporte. If they do not, you can still use some online virtual credit cards. The advantage of using such online virtual cards is that the limit of it is usually very low. So, you cam minimize the loss if someone get your credit card information while you are surf on the web.

When you are trying to explore the best sex positions, you may probably need to visit some adult forums. Yes, it is very important for you to discuss with other people in order to discover more. You have to remember that you should never use your real name when you register. There is no need to do so. You can still access the forums if you do not use your real name. By doing this you can protect your own privacy.

As you know, web browser such as Firefox and Internet Explorer will keep the history, cache and cookies when you are surfing on the web. Other people can easily know what kinds of sites you have visited. In order to protect yourself, you must delete all the history and cache after you visit the adult websites. It is even more important if you are visiting the websites in the office. Again, you are doing all these in order to protect yourself!

Sex Offenders – School Children at Risk on Many Fronts

The recent arrest of a school bus driver in Hayfield, MN on sexual misconduct charges had wide reverberations in this town of about 1,300. About 50 people, many of them concerned parents, attended a Child Safety Community Forum at Hayfield High School. The forum was arranged because of the recent arrest of David Gerlach, a 49-year-old bus driver from Brownsdale, who is charged with several counts of sexual misconduct.

Gerlach was a bus driver for the Hayfield public schools. On July 25, Gerlach was charged in Dodge District Court with felony third-degree criminal sexual conduct and third-degree attempted sexual conduct involving a boy, who was at least sixteen at the time.

“On Aug. 1, Mower County prosecutors filed a criminal complaint against Gerlach, charging him with 12 counts of first-degree criminal sexual conduct, four counts of second-degree criminal sexual conduct and one count of first-degree burglary. The Mower County complaint alleges that Gerlach committed incidents of sexual abuse approximately between 1993 and 2001 in Brownsdale, involving a boy who was 8 when the misconduct began.”

Tori Miller, a victim advocate for the Crime Victims Resource Center in Austin, told people in the audience to “believe your kids.”

“Children don’t normally make these kinds of things up,” said Miller, one of ten panelists at the forum. “It’s very important that parents are educating their children on good touch and bad touch, what is right and what is wrong.”

Tips to keep your child safe:

o Monitor your children’s activities, including Internet use and cell phone text messages.

o Introduce yourself to your child’s bus driver.

o Be cautious of adults who are overly involved in your child’s life.

o Talk to your kids about “good touch” and “bad touch.”

o Ask questions.

o “Go with your gut.” Talk to school administrators and law enforcement officers if you suspect something is wrong.

While the tips set forth by this forum are effective, they fall short of what children need to know and exercise.

Sex offenders use acceptable touch to condition the child to feel comfortable with their interactions. Thus, when the sex offender has a sense that the child feels comfortable and trusts the interaction, he/she progresses to ‘bad touch,’ without warning. In an instant the child is sexually abused.

Children more often than not have a keener sixth sense, than adults–i.e. their sixth sense tells them–something is not right, their demeanor is slightly off, there is an undercurrent. Allowing your child to exercise their appropriate suspicion will more often than not, be a protective barrier against would-be sex offenders. If your child is uncomfortable being around a person, including, the bus driver, respect and honor your child’s sensibilities. Do what you need to do to protect your child from anyone your child is uncomfortable being around. It is far better to err on the side of caution, than to be sorry later.
Furthermore, know the signs your child is being targeted.

There is no foolproof sexual child abuse prevention, because, sex offenders are cunning predators, who have perfected their skills to get what they want. Therefore, heed and investigate any warning signals.

Warning signals include, but are not limited to:

o An aversion to an adult–even an adult whom your child knows and seemingly has been comfortable with heretofore.

o Sudden outbursts of anger toward a person, event, activity, etc. and there is no apparent reason known for such anger.

o Any unusual or unexplained behavior change.

o Not wanting to go to school on a particular day of the week–the day gym or music class is held for instance.

o Not wanting to ride the bus or be around a particular person.

o The gym teacher says your child is athletically ‘gifted’ and he or she wants to develop your child’s athletic abilities if your child practiced one-on-one after school. Never allow you child to be alone with someone who could have an ulterior motive.

o A teacher gives your child a gift. A gift is sometimes an overture to win your trust and groom your child for seduction.

The Emergence of Adult Role Playing

Roleplaying (or “RPing”) can be described as a written collaboration among people as they each control their own character and interact with the other characters to achieve some sort of objective. Written roleplay emerged from tabletop roleplaying games (RPGs) like Dungeons & Dragons and early roleplaying games. The fictional collaboration model of forum-based role playing is essentially a traditional roleplaying game without the rigid mechanic of dice and rules. Only a few residual characteristics of forum play-by-post roleplaying points back to its tabletop predecessors, and that’s mainly its turn-based format and the “Game Master” entity responsible for controlling the pace of the RP, progression, and the non-player characters and events that happen.

The adult RPing community has taken the written RP subject and narrowed it into the niche of adult themes and sexual themes. Where a conventional roleplay could involve hobbits taking a powerful ring to the summit of a volcano, adult roleplaying involves a dance of foreplay between a man and a woman before they have sex. Or it can involve a forbidden romance, a master-slave dichotomy, or any other adult theme, usually sexual in nature.

Adult roleplaying goes by various different names that mean different things to different people. The first is “erotic roleplaying” which generally refers to role playing involving sexual themes. Erotica doesn’t have to result in sex. Another way of referring to adult RPing is “mature RP” which is more indicative of a roleplay involving adults, not necessarily sex. The third semi-synonymous for adult roleplaying is “sexual roleplaying” and often refers to the act of dressing up in costumes and pretending to be someone or something else while you have sex with your partner. In the written role play community, sexual roleplaying simply means that the collaboration involves sex. Finally, “adult roleplaying” is an all-inclusive phrase that catches all of the individual roleplay subsets above.